Do we have control ?
We may not able to control everything in our outer world, but surely we can control our inner world.
It’s not so easy to not react, everybody reacts, even I do sometimes. But the question is how long are you going to react?.
If you keep an emotional reaction going on for an extended period of time, you are actually memorizing that emotion by writing into your memory and your body as the unconscious mind is believing it and it is living in the same past experience.
24 hours in a day…
7 days in a week…
365 days in a year…
you live in the same past experiences…
When you do this, your body (ie, unconscious mind) doesn’t know the difference between the real experience that produces the emotions and the emotions produced by thought alone. So then the emotion reaffirms the state just like you practice affirmations. And then the people start to use the problems and conditions in their life to keep that emotion going… and we can call that an addiction. So when we become addicted to the very life, even they don’t like that very life. It is important then for the people to understand or realize that when you have those moments where you have a crisis or something breakdown that you do have control over it and it’s a formula or it’s a skill that you have to learn and develop. And researches shows that even you can teach people how to do that.
When you are living by some emotions and there will always be a gap between the way things appear in your life and the way things really are, emotions alter our perception. And if you act during that time you will always say the same things like
I should have never said that…
I should have never done that…
I should have never thought that…
I should have never sent that message…
So the skill is nothing but shortening your emotional reactions. It is a level of intelligence that causes you to recalibrate it. But most people don’t think they have control over it. Those people will say,
That person did this to me…
That circumstances are the reason I am this way…
So then I would tell them, if something in your outer environment is controlling your thoughts and feelings, then you are a victim to your environment. How you think and feel creates your outer world.
"Change Your Thinking Change Your Life"